As I start writing this post, I recall 3 years back when Anvesha was born... those sleepless nights, cranky baby and managing the household chores. Becoming a parent is hard, challenging and life altering. First child, you are clueless about most of the things.... there are good moments and meltdowns as well. As a first time- stay at home mom, I recall when all I wanted was to sleep uninterrupted or get a break from my own baby :( There were moments of anxiety of high fevers and moments when I used to fret about her not eating enough ( although I do that even now). But there were moments when I could not spend a second without her. It was madness and pure happiness all at once.
Over the time, I got into the groove and moments that seemed "so hard" started getting manageable. At that time I questioned how people did this again with another baby? But as they say, "second kid is always for the first one" :) I am so glad God again blessed us with a daughter. Having a sister is something I missed and seeing Anvesha and Anvika makes me so happy. I look forward to watching them grow up together.
Anvika is 2.5 month old now and she is such a joy. This time, as a second time mom, is different in so many ways including the absence of a scared, not so confident mother that I was with my first daughter. So, here's what I am learning with my new life with 2 kids:
1. Enjoying small moments: This time it's all about enjoying little things and to live in the moment as much as possible.
2. Developing a system: Iam all about routine and structure. Weekly menus are planned at the start of the week and I make preparations ahead of time. Since Anvesha goes to preschool, I pick her outfit and pack lunch the night before. Although I get super exhausted at night, but it does help to make the mornings smooth.
3. Focus: I find it extremely hard to focus on my very active and talkative preschooler when the little one needs my physical attention, generally needing to be held, nursed or changed. Finding this balance can be tricky and extremely frustrating and it makes me feel somewhat guilty of not giving my 100% to both of them.
4. Meltdowns happen. Its amazing how Anvesha has taken the baby so well, but she is still only 3.5 years old and when things don't go in a certain way, she gets frustrated. With 2 kids I find it hard to calm her down when Anvika is crying or when I have to put her to sleep. Challenges like these make my day extremely hard and I do have moments when I can't figure out how to balance my own life.
Parenting continues to amaze me with all of it's ups and downs. As a mom of two daughters, Iam amazed how much I have changed as I continue to embrace this magical and challenging time.
Over the time, I got into the groove and moments that seemed "so hard" started getting manageable. At that time I questioned how people did this again with another baby? But as they say, "second kid is always for the first one" :) I am so glad God again blessed us with a daughter. Having a sister is something I missed and seeing Anvesha and Anvika makes me so happy. I look forward to watching them grow up together.
Anvika is 2.5 month old now and she is such a joy. This time, as a second time mom, is different in so many ways including the absence of a scared, not so confident mother that I was with my first daughter. So, here's what I am learning with my new life with 2 kids:
1. Enjoying small moments: This time it's all about enjoying little things and to live in the moment as much as possible.
2. Developing a system: Iam all about routine and structure. Weekly menus are planned at the start of the week and I make preparations ahead of time. Since Anvesha goes to preschool, I pick her outfit and pack lunch the night before. Although I get super exhausted at night, but it does help to make the mornings smooth.
3. Focus: I find it extremely hard to focus on my very active and talkative preschooler when the little one needs my physical attention, generally needing to be held, nursed or changed. Finding this balance can be tricky and extremely frustrating and it makes me feel somewhat guilty of not giving my 100% to both of them.
4. Meltdowns happen. Its amazing how Anvesha has taken the baby so well, but she is still only 3.5 years old and when things don't go in a certain way, she gets frustrated. With 2 kids I find it hard to calm her down when Anvika is crying or when I have to put her to sleep. Challenges like these make my day extremely hard and I do have moments when I can't figure out how to balance my own life.
Parenting continues to amaze me with all of it's ups and downs. As a mom of two daughters, Iam amazed how much I have changed as I continue to embrace this magical and challenging time.
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